One of my four legged loves.
We who choose to surround ourselves with lives even more temporary than our own, live within a fragile circle, easily and often breached. Unable to accept its awful gaps, we would still live no other way
His name was “Chucky”. My son and I named him after a cartoon character that had red hair. He was a 15 pound, newspaper loving red cat that lit up our lives. His tummy drug the ground, he LOVED lying on the Sunday paper and he only ate tuna. He got us through our years of being just Mommy and Joel. When we didn’t have money for entertainment, he was our entertainment. When we were all alone, he was there to be with us. When Joel was having a diabetic seizure, Chucky alerted me that something was wrong. When I remarried he accepted the man who came into our lives (ironically his name is Chuck), and when it came time to take his last breath, Chucky choose him to be the one who held him. He was a wonderful cat, and his story was told when he was buried in our flower garden. Who do you love and what is their story “waiting to be told”.
It seems that I have always known that the dogs, cats, birds, hamsters, horses – all of the wonderful creatures that take up residence with us aren’t just our pets; they are beloved members of the family. They give us unconditional love and acceptance and they teach us to look at life through lenses other than our own. Their very presence calms us – they make our souls purr. They enrich our lives like nothing else can.
When a person you love dies, it’s natural to feel sorrow, express grief, and expect friends and family to provide understanding and comfort. Unfortunately, the same doesn’t always hold true if the one who died was your animal companion.
Many consider grieving inappropriate for someone who has lost “just a pet”, but nothing could be further from the truth. Our society often dismisses such a loss, saying, “It’s only a … (fill in the blank)” and that the pet owner should “just get over it”. Nothing could be further from the truth. Our pets are in integral part of our families to be celebrated not denied.
You will find a kindred spirit when we speak about the loss of your very special member of the family. As a celebrant, together we will create a sacred space for you to remember and honor your beloved pet. It would be my privilege to write their story that truly is “waiting to be told.”